My Children Love me; do we always understand one another or agree? No, the love of a Son and the Love of a daughter are different.
Interesting, my Sons treat me like a queen, my Daughters are carbon copies of me; bless their Hearts!!! They are Mothers. All of us working together accomplish what needs to be done.
This Christmas; for the first time in a few years, we were together in one place.
Talking about feeling old!!!! I saw pictures of myself……OK, I did dye my hair. I asked God, He let me know that someone requested that I do this. I will get better. I will not do anything again; without God’s permission: Proverb:3:6: In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.
To see My Children Grown; some of them have children as tall as I am. My Granddaughter fixed my plate! When I have grandchildren big enough to fix my plate and they do it on their own without being asked! It is God. It is a blessing!
Of course I spent some time crying. I tried to do it secretly.
God is a blessing to me as well as my children, my grandchildren and I am expecting Him to continue bless.
Just being here, has been my focus. As long as God has allowed me to continue to be here, we will, the Lord and I, for it takes him: Philippians 2:13: For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure.
Note: There is nothing wrong with crying, it is a release. I have grandchildren of all ages. It was Christmas Day; they would be confused. Did you have children that would cry if they saw you cry? They would have no idea; why they were crying, just the fact that they loved you and all that is evident to them is that something is causing you to cry! My grown children are still trying to understand me.
I use to wonder why? When the Mothers in the Lord, talked about what the Lord had done and will do, they would cry. We did not have to be in Church. The goodness of the Lord, produces tears. You see, God did not have to let me live to see all of this! I am grateful!
It feels good to know that my Children still Respect me and at times, still want my opinion! (smile) Unfortunately, sometimes they get it whether they want it or ask for it.
1/28/11 My Son and I can laugh about it Now, I did wash his mouth out with soap for using profanity; when he was young. One time, I told him to be quiet, I did not want to hear another word, I was driving; he said he remembers the tires screeching. I pulled in front of my brothers house, yanked him out of the car and wore him out. My Brother said he saw me; he must have did something to deserve it and went on about his business. I did what I felt was the best thing to do. Oh yeah; I did talk while whipping him. It’s been over 20 years now, he is 30 years of age. WE can laugh about it, now! Proverb:22:15: Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.
Now, I get to watch my children be Parents! God is so good!
What I have discovered in my Parenting is not that I have a favorite child. Each of my Children possess a Uniqueness, that only that child can give to me. There is one that carried his Bible everywhere with him and began wearing suits at a young age.
God has showed him, His greatness!
There is one that wanted to debate whether the Sun was shining or not and oh so competitive and independent. They told her she couldn’t go to college after she was injured in her Senior year in High School. Don’t tell her she can’t do something.
Then there is my child of faith, that had prepared everything for the baby before he was Born, even decorated his room, before he was conceived physically.
Then there is my quiet one with so much strength, He started praying at an early age.
There is one that I no longer try to put in the box, he is always thinking outside of the box.
Each of them have contributed to me in the way that only each one of them can. Oh yeah, they still believe that I favor one over the other. Not so, I have learned to appreciate the gifts in each of them.
Note: Don’t destroy the Uniqueness; that God has placed in each of the Children, he entrusted to you. Nor, destroy your own uniqueness.
There have been times; we have been in the car and one of them will say, do or even start singing something that would help me! Be careful what you do or say before them. When they are young. You are the one they imitate.
Now, that I am older, I take the time to listen to them! Children are much smarter than we sometimes give them credit for. One of my sons; saw the struggle’s that I was going through and decided then that his wife, (he was not even old enough to date at the time) would not have to go through what he saw his mama go through! I did not talk to my children about my struggles; which may the reason it is so difficult for me now??? He has kept that promise. He and his wife; do take care of one another. Sons are very protective of their Mothers! At one time, I was going to ask a neighbor something simple; my son said no don’t ask him; he would come over and do it. Men and Women process things differently, I believe that Men are territorial and they know how other men think. This was just a child to me. yet my Son’s thoughts, he is still a MAN. It opened my eyes!!
There are some things that are not coming out of that child; until and if God wants it removed. Pray and listen to your children. Did I always do that? No, am I still learning? Yes, I did the best I could with what I had at the time. I had no one to share anything with me; and I am not sure, I would have listened. The only thing that I can do is offer advice. Pray before you do anything!
Appreciate all of your children, I believe that it is a Blessing when God allows you to see what He has done in them. Please don’t take them for granted. I stand by my word “Our children are People as well”. Just because they are our children they are not obligated to do anything for us, no one is. I don’t believe that my children “Owe” me anything; I know that there are people that disagree with me.
That’s okay, the Lord and I love you. It is a privilege to be able to Mother a child or five. (Smile) Twins included!
I believe that at times God wants to see what is in us? It is a responsibility when God trust you with another Soul. Since He knows the end from the beginning. He knows what you are going to place in them. Love them, cherish them. God lends us to our children and he lends our children to us! Think about it.